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Friday, August 09, 2013
Why Do We Argue?
Good arguers are good at losing.
What do good arguers win when they win an argument?
Three models for arguing:
1. Argument as War
- dominant model of all three, "arguments that have a lot of punch", "killer arguments"
- has deforming effects
- war elevates tactics over substance
- magnifies differences making it US vs. THEM
- The only foreseeable outcomes are: Glorious Victory and Ignominious Defeat
- discourages deliberation, negotiation, compromise and collaboration
- Learning = Losing
2. Argument as Proof
3. Arguments as Performances
- with juries
Existing roles in arguments
- proponent: makes an argument
- opponent : opposes to the argument
Become a new kind of arguer
Be both the arguer and the audience. Where at the end you look at the experience like an audience member might and say, "yeah that was a good argument. We have gained because of this interchange"
It takes practice to become a good kind of arguer. One that can benefit from losing.